Happiness comes from within you, not from your outside circumstances.
1. Define your happy.
Often times, we convince ourselves that we need certain things to feel happy, and they are usually the things that society has decided for us. This leads to a lack of curiosity about yourself. Your vision of happiness can be very different from what your parents or colleagues have pursued and what they want for you. Success can be so many things. It can be climbing the corporate ladder, opening businesses and networking with people all over the world to develop the next new thing. OR it can be living on a small farm where you raise animals and sell your produce at the farmer's market. You don't have to adopt someone else's idea of happiness, but it is important to define your own. So how do you figure out what actually makes you happy? You have take down your walls and be real with yourself. Write down a list of anything that raises your positive vibration. Things that fire you up and bring you to your most engaged self. Don't force yourself to write anything, just go with what naturally comes out. Take a look at your list. Evaluate what you are doing in your own life. You might realize you are chasing someone else's happy.
2. Write about one of your favorite memories.
After writing the list of things that makes you tick, go into depth with one of those feelings/activities. Choose a memory of experiencing that feeling/activity and try to remember where you were, what was going on, who you were with and spend some time in that memory you already have. Reliving that experience allows you to reap the reward once again. It also serves as something you can come back to over and over to remind you of what makes you truly happy. There's a quote that goes "The gap between what your soul loves and the amount of time you spend doing it, will be the size of your unhappiness."
3. Reflect on failure.
Failure is hard. And many people have a fear of failure and have a hard time accepting when they fail. A great way to think about failure is that it is a tuition you pay to learn something new, and it contributes greatly to the bigger picture. Failures are stepping stones and opportunities to grow. It may seem unlikely, but happiness and failure are closely related. A huge part of feeling truly happy is being able to ride the waves of every circumstance and emotion that life gives you. It is realizing that when things like failure happen, you can learn and have the skills to come out on the other side better than before. Write about a time you fell short on something, It can be a task you failed at, a time when you didn't follow through on your word, a rocky relationship, or a time when you didn't advocate for yourself when you should have. Then write about what you gained from the experience. Did you get more insight? Learn about a better way to do things? There is always a lesson in the hardship.
Check out these oolong teas that light & fruity: