The secret to self love is self acceptance.
1. Write to your younger self.
Tell your younger self what you grew up to be, what worked out positively, what troubles you have faced, or even reassuring words of encouragement. What you write down might shed some light on the heavy places in your life that might need attention and healing. It may also help you remember that you are stronger and more resilient than you thought. Who you are as an adult is often times who our younger selves needed as children. Be proud of yourself for that, especially if you can be that person for another person in your life.
2. Write a short paragraph about yourself from the perspective of someone who loves you.
We should love ourselves the way we love others, and that can be hard sometimes. We are our biggest critics and only see ourselves through our own scrutinizing lenses. Take a moment to jump into someone else's perspective. It can be someone you already know or someone you made up. Pretend you are that person and write a short paragraph about what it's like to love you. It can be romantic, platonic, or whatever you want it to be.
3. What are your toxic traits?
A part of self love is admitting that you have flaws that can be worked on. When you accept that you have messed up, have failed, didn't do the right thing, that's when you really make huge leaps towards healing. When you start to dig deeper and understand why or why not you did certain things, and how you can do things differently in the future, then you are really getting in touch with your core. Think about some of your toxic traits and when and how the present themselves. How do they project onto others? Think of a specific time where you were feeding a toxic part of yourself. Write down what happened, then write what you will do next time if it happens again. We all have good and bad and getting to know your bad can help you understand how to handle the hard stuff with compassion and let the good in you be triumphant.
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